#MomStress #DadStress. Those are real facts. From family finances to discipline issues, relationship issues, the actual question is how do you deal and handle it in a conducive and positive manner. There needs to be a change in perspective in order for parents not drive themselves crazy.
First off, let start with self care. It is really important to remember you can't give what you don’t have. You cannot run on empty. You have to make sure you are taken care of, not feel rushed and fulfilled before the family can genuinely feel that from you. There is no fake it till you make it. Children pick up more than what adults would ever give them credit for.
Here are some ways to destress yourself.
- Schedule your own self care time. From just 20 minutes of just walk around the nearest park can do you good. Go to the closest coffee place and enjoy an hour of your favorite drink there. Find a way. Make it “your thing”.
- Ask for help when you need it. It is OK to ask for help or “out-source” some household chores if need be. It does not make you any less of a mum or dad. Delegate when you can. You are not a superhero. Seeking, asking a person and professional help for yourself from as small as cleaning services for household chores, to your doctor, a psychologist, or a psychiatrist, if your stress and anxiety are causing severe or lingering symptoms so that it is hard to sleep or do your daily activities. In the world that we live in now, this has been more of a necessity and not a luxury. Learn how to say NO to things that do not benefit you or the child
- Allow your kids to grow. “You are a gardener, not a sculptor” Your children are not to be looked at as something that is owned and to be “molded” They are their own people, their own interest, personality devoid of yours. They are to be loved, respected and nurtured as individuals. Love and respect is earned not expected.
- Do not over schedule. A child being occasionally “ignored” and being“bored” is a great way for them to build on their own ideas and creativity. This also helps them discover what their own likes and dislikes, teaching them to communicate positively and effectively.
There is no magic formula for parenting success. Your child could be the most popular, be the smartest in the school, or be a star athlete, but that doesn't mean that he will grow up to be happier, get in less trouble, or be more successful than any other kid. The best we can likely do is to raise our kids so that they feel loved, are happy and healthy, develop as much self-confidence as they can, and then try to build on whatever strengths and interests that they have. Be kind, loving, strong, resourceful, service filled human-being. Shouldn’t that be the measure of success?