Hello there to our dear CreaTees . Can you recognize if the child in our life is being bullied?. Here are some pointers.
1. Unexplained bruises or cuts.
It’s expected that kids might get a scrape or two from playing outside. However, children usually seek adult attention for their wounds. If your child doesn’t mention or explain how he got his injuries, these may be the result of more than the usual playground roughhousing.
2. Marked change in typical behavior or personality.
This takes shape in different forms.
o Low self-esteem and social isolation.
Bullying is not just a physical act. Over time, name-calling may take a heavy emotional toll on the victims. When children are routinely made to feel inferior and insignificant, they may begin to internalize the taunts and jeers said about them. They, the ones being bullied, would show no interest in participating in social activities or interactions, tho they would generally be excluded or left out in most cases.
o Unwilling to go to school.
Kids procrastinate when asked to do homework or chores, but also when they're trying to postpone a frightening or stressful experience. Children who find excuses not to go to school may be trying to avoid bullies.
o Suddenly sullen, withdrawn, evasive; remarks about feeling lonely.
o Appears sad, moody, angry, anxious or depressed and that mood lasts with no known cause
3. Bullying other children.
Bullies look for people that look like potential victims, If not addressed appropriately and in a prompt manner, bullying can create a vicious cycle. Victims become bullies themselves, who then continue to victimize other children.
4. Difficulty sleeping, nightmares, cries self to sleep, bed wetting.
Bed wetting, for example, is pretty common and accidental in childhood. However if this symptom prolongs till late pre-teen, it is definitely something that needs to be understood and looked into.
5. Missing books, toys, and clothes.
Through no fault of their own, children sometimes lose their things. But if you notice that your child starts losing important possessions, maybe a prized pair of shoes or a nice set of school supplies, these might have been forcibly taken from your child. There is no need to be paranoid , just be cognizant.
6. Change in eating habits.
Eating more than usual. Eating less than usual. Essentially, if any emotional overeating or extreme appetite increase, decrease is observed.Eating disorders is not uncommon in these kinds of situations especially in teenage bullying survivors.
The gut will speak. If you feel that something is not quite right, chances are it probably is. You need to listen to it. First and foremost if and when you see this happening to your child, it is the adult’s responsibility to hear the child out and not brush him or her off. We need to make the child feel loved, safe, truly heard and understood.That is how the gates for further communication, understanding,more importantly, trust is opened.That is also how we can hopefully better the situation before any further appropriate action is taken.
We will touch more on HOW TO DEAL WITH BULLYING in the next article.
Till next time. Love and kindness. Spread that around.